If something I said hurt her(26F) feelings because she interpreted it differently to how I intended how do I fix things? I explained what I actually meant, but she’s still certain in her interpretation of my intention in saying it.

There’s been times she’s said something that hurt my feelings but we talked about it and I accepted her pov, and felt better about it

We have since broken up but I can’t get my head around how to fix this if it occurs in another relationship.

I feel like she’s assuming negative things about what I said but it was more a neutral observation on my end. At the same time I don’t want to invalidate her feelings. But I’m not someone to put people down all the time. I understand I may have unintentionally.

Example 1 She moved house, previous house had cracks in ceiling and that’s why she moved. When we went to the new house I looked for cracks and pointed them out and said hmm this one looks a little concerning. She took that as insulting the house and not liking the house.

I never explicitly said I don’t like the house but she keeps saying I said I didn’t like it.

Example 2 she hadn’t driven for 8 years and suddenly said she wanted to drive on a super busy road in a van. I said try on a quiet street first, she was like why don’t you believe in me?