My bf (22m) and I (22f) are in a newly open relationship and we’re talking about people we may know who we would be interested in trying to talk to/hook up with. For reference, my partner and I have been together for five years, have been open before, and haven’t had issues. We stopped for a while because of personal reasons but are trying to get back into things. I have an ex coworker whom I find attractive, but he (23m) is in a relationship with a partner. How do I approach bringing up mine and my partners openness without making it awkward? I obviously would go based off of energy and if he’s totally not into it I wouldn’t try to go further. But, I’m not sure if him and his partner are open either, they’re long distance but I sometimes get the vibe that he’s flirting with me..

I don’t wanna ruin our friendship, but I do wonder sometimes if it’s all in my head, or if he would be interested in me.. again, I’m hoping to casually bring up me and my partners open relationship and just see his reaction/how it goes from there.

Any tips/advice are helpful, I also am trying to figure out how to talk about this in general without seeming overly sexual/weird to others..