Hi Redditers,

I recently started dating my colleague after both me and her broke up with our long term partners. It wasn't planned in any ways and I sort of knew when I entered this dating-process that the both of us we're not looking for a new relationship.

Sort of like a summer-romance or just sheer replacement for an empty space after our last relationships.

Why I'm describing it in this unromantic way is because I'm often fighting addictive behaviours such as drug abuse, addiction to relationships and what not.

This doesn't automatically mean that my feelings for her are not real, because they are. I really like this girl a lot and that is why I'm writing this post, because it has come to an end where I feel like I can't handle my day-to-day life very well without feeling anxious.

We live a 3 hour drive apart so we don't meet that very often. We've been texting and video chatting a lot and then it all just got cold a week after my last visit. On weekends she's been out partying all night long with her friends as well as some shady gangster guys and I try to stay cool at home and not saying anything about it. Like, why should I? We're barrely dating and I don't want to appear or even be controlling in any ways. Also I feel like I'm the one sending that first text every time, even thought it's been a whole day of silence.

The thing is, that I know for sure that I am needy and need a lot of confirmation from my women.. And there are a lot of things I need to work on. But damn, it takes time. Even though I know what to do and how to think my body and brain produces all these chemical reactions that make me feel anxious anyway. I know I should just let go of the feelings but my body can't do it.

I'm not sure if I should just let her go and go start dating other women that do not live a life style of partying with shady people or if I should just stay where I'm at and see this as the perfect challenge that can help me develop myself and become the man I wan't to be?