I’ve been seeing a guy since early may, and he’s perfect and 100% my type. respectful, funny, kind, and treats me better than any guy has. We never set any boundaries or expectations with our relationship, but both have expressed loving hanging out with each other, plus the sex is really good.

Unfortunately, I feel like I’ve had to beg for his attention lately. I haven’t seen him in almost three weeks, and have barely heard from him. I’m trying not to come off as insane or obsessive, but I text or call him every couple of days and get a response sometimes. He works full time, is renovating his house, and is pretty involved with his family. For context, we’re both in our early 20s and I’m between jobs at the moment, so I do have much more free time than he does.

I texted him about a week and a half ago after not hearing from him for a full week (which hadn’t happened before until then) that if he wanted me to leave him alone, then I would. He instantly called me and told me that that wasn’t the case, he had just been busy. We chatted for a bit, and ended the conversation with me feeling better. Now the same thing is happening again, and I just want some external perspectives. His energy is completely different from what it was when we first started seeing each other- I’d seen him multiple times a week for those first two months. We’ve met each others families and hung out with each others friends.

What should I do? Should I ask to have a serious conversation, should I pretend like he doesn’t exist and like this doesn’t hurt?