This is a long story so I will cut it short. I seem to be the friend other friends come to when they have friend issues. I have noticed a trend that's easy for you to fix.

Stop ditching your friends for a relationship/partner.

Putting your girlfriend (boyfriend) you havn't known for very long over your friends who have been with you for years is not okay. It is not a good thing at all, and if you're not careful it will come back to bite you in the butt. Driving friends away is not a good sign or sign of a good relationship. Having your partner be the focus of life is not healthy. Show love and respect for your friends.

Maybe you think your friends/best friend will be there forever no matter what happens to you or her. Maybe you think your relationship is the only thing that really matters. Whatever the case is, if you continues to drive people away, then if things go sour you will see you have no one to turn back on for help. That will be all your fault. You will miss your friends when you need them most, but maybe they will have moved on!

If you feel you're on the receiving end of this, talk to your friend, if they're not responsive or don't seem to care, move on, they aren't really a friend and do not deserve your time or effort.

Bestfriends - If they're ditching you for a partner - she’s not your best friend. I’ve learned that if people really want you in their life, they’ll make time! Everyone has different priorities, and if you aren’t one then don’t make her one. You don’t have to be mean or petty, just simply stop investing your time and energy into her if she’s not returning it back. Let her ditch you for the relationship, her loss. To them, friends are just support systems - there for when they need them or their partner is non existent or unavailable. A person like that doesn’t deserve your friendship, and you don’t owe it to them to give it to them. Instead spend your time making friends that want to spend time with you (regardless if they're single or not).

Taken from a therapist; To anyone currently experiencing this: I’m sorry this is going on for you. I can quite relate to your situation and it can be a heartbreaking experience for sure.

I know it can be disorienting to go through a drastic change in a relationship you thought was stable, all the while wondering if your feelings are valid because you’re hurt over “just” a friendship. I’m here to tell you you’re not overreacting by feeling hurt by your friend. Your relationship has suddenly and dramatically changed — of course you’re hurt.

Friendships aren’t a lesser type of relationship, and they entail reciprocal effort and communication. Marriage and romance might change other relationships somewhat, but what kind of friend is she if she never texts or calls? Never initiates plans? Says she’s going to meet with you and bails? Or only looks for you when she’s had an argument with her boyfriend? The list goes on.

You deserve friendships, too, where you feel cared for, loved, acknowledged, valued, seen… not replaced, devalued or ignored. As I said in a reply to another person in this thread, wanting to keep your connection to this friend is understandable. They’re the person you thought was your closest and best friend. You wish things could go back or that at least you could interact with your friend more. It’s okay to keep the friendship and even tell her how you feel. There’s a chance she might not see where your coming from or realize what she’s doing, though maybe I’m wrong. Perhaps there’s a chance she’ll notice what she’s doing and mend her friendship with you.

You deserve to be valued as a friend, and to have your feelings be validated. I hope you don’t treat yourself too harshly for these feelings, and instead validate and process how you feel. I also hope you’re able to foster connections with other people who share your values and want to be treated in a similar way to you.

Best of luck to you and anyone reading this. ❤️

Don't use, abuse or lose your friends. Don't be used, abused or ignored as a friend.

PS, I made this profile just to post this. I expect hate.