4 years married, and she is the love of my life. We have our differences and disagreements, but always seem to work things out, but man I am hitting a wall on the stupidest thing right now. She got a tattoo on her under arm without telling me, and I hate tattoos. I hate the design and I hate that she didn’t include me on the decision making process.

I think I’m mostly hurt that she didn’t tell me about it at all, especially since she knows I hate tattoos. I think the art is sometimes cool, but I have never found them attractive. They always seemed tacky to me no matter what. Always a huge turn off, and were usually a deal breaker when I was dating. Just not for me. I know at the end of the day its her body and my opinions can go to hell… but at the same time Its our marriage and attraction goes a long way in a happy successful relationship. I’m mad about it, and I am mad that I’m so emotional about it. I want to get over it, but I’m hurt pretty bad that she didn’t even tell me she was doing it. I think i would have handled it better if I was in the loop.

So idk my plight might sound stupid to you, but how do I not let this bug me so much.

Edit: feel like I’m being berated rather than given advice. I know I need to get over it. I’m asking for advice on how to get over it.