As the titles suggests I don’t have the drive to be intimate with my boyfriend. We had a very health sex life up until this week maybe last week. I know part of the issue is that it’s very vanilla and I’m not a 100% vanilla person but with our currently situation it’s not like we can do what I’d like.

At the same time I’m not sure even if the situation was different and we could spicy it up if he would. I still find him very attractive and love him very much. I feel like I’m letting him down by almost completely stop being intimate with him since before we would do it at least 1 or 2 a day. My only saving Grace that doesn’t eat me up with guilt is that we have a consent non consent agreement.

How can I revive my sex drive and go back to having the intimate relationship we had before?

ETA: We live with his parents and have no space for privacy so things are done way late at night in the dark under a blanket with 3 maybe 4 different positions if I’m lucky. Most the time we cycle through two of em though.

I have brought up that I don’t like the vanilla stuff and that it doesn’t do anything for me but I usually just get a shrug a flippant reply along the lines well we can’t do anything about it now