So basically I’ve been unhappy for the last few weeks and realized it’s because something happened that made me realize how much I’ve been unsatisfied with the amount of effort he’s been putting in to me. I still love him but I want more and he can’t give it.

We’re not going to be friends afterwards. Not because I think we’ll hate each other, our social circles don’t overlap enough for it to work out that way.

He’s leaving to visit family 4 states away on Saturday and won’t be back until the following Wednesday. I feel like I should wait until next week when he comes back so it’ll be easier for him. I also don’t want to wait because it’s killing me pretending like nothings wrong. I’m anxious, I can’t sleep, and I’m nauseous all day.

I feel like his family could help him through it because they are all very close. But I also feel like I’m being incredibly selfish by blindsiding him before a trip.

It’s currently Wednesday afternoon so I’d have to wait until next Thursday to talk to him or I could talk to him tomorrow. What should I do? Should I wait until he come back or rip the band-aid off?

TLDR: should I wait to dump my BF after or before their family trip this weekend?