Wishing it was a “break” not a breakup.

Hey everyone, my boyfriend of two years just broke up with me out of the blue. The timing is also not super great as I just started a new job, so training has been made difficult. I feel like a “Break” is moreso what we need, based on what he’s said. However I think someone talked him into it (most likely his mom). He said he still cares about me and I’m his best friend still; but that he isn’t achieving his goals and “feels less passionate/doesn’t love me the same.” But then he wants me hold him in bed at night(all night, and wont let me go, still sleeping in same bed, both of us “offer” to sleep on couch but we both are more comfortable together)
One of the reasons he tried to use was my having a hard time finding employment, which is partly his fault as he didn’t want me to take a job near his job, and I was getting tons of applications requests from that area, which we have talked about multiple times. It has only been 4months since my last employment, and my new job is much better than that one. I feel like he won’t even let me “defend” myself /position in relationship. I feel its because he doesn’t actually want to end things. He doesn’t want to hear my arguments, he just kind of brushes them off or redirects/minimizes. His “arguments/reasoning” also doesn’t flow/make sense. I asked him to try couples counseling but he was raised very anti-therapy/ toxic masculinity. Men can only cry when a death happens and no sobbing etc. I admit I am a more sensitive person, however I have been working really hard on emotional regulation and have made huge improvements. I love him so much and only see my life/future with him, and am very lost/devastated. I know the saying goes “If you love something let it go, it might come back to you” but I don’t want to lose the love of my life.

Tldr: What should I do to cope/possibly convince him to change his mind?