We’ve been married for 8 years and been together even longer. I feel we were in a honey moon stage longer than most couples. We had our first child about a year and a half ago and my wife’s self esteem has only been deteriorating since then. We both work full time, but I do most of the work (if not all) around the house and taking care of our kid. Most nights she comes home, eats, and passes out on the couch. Like I said, I take care of the house, cook dinner every night, clean, do the laundry, spend time with our son, tend to the yard, wash the dishes, this list goes on and on. I do this every evening so there is nothing she has to worry about and can hopefully spend some time with me. When I try to spend time with her she is usually to tired to want to do anything which includes our intimacy. She has also gained some weight and states she’s not comfortable with her body no matter how much assurance and affection I show (I suppose this is understandable). She recently let her sisters move in with us (I was not for it) and have only made things worse. She will now come home, do her regular routine, but then will hang out with them until she’s ready for bed. Once I see her and try to spend some time whether emotionally or physically, she is too tired and passes out. With her sisters moving in I now spend more time cooking, cleaning, and caring for our child. I am BURNT OUT. At my wits end both emotionally and sexually. I have tried bringing it up but then leads to arguments or emotional shut downs on her end which makes things even worse. To be clear I think she as an AMAZING mother, but I don’t have a wife anymore. I feel like I have a roommate. I don’t know what to do…..