Hey everyone,

So my bf and I have been dating for almost 11 months now. We have been doing very well, good at communication, and we love what we have. We have even talked about marriage at times. In his past relationships, the gf wouldn’t let him express how he felt, and I’m the opposite. I want him to tell me how he’s feeling. He was in a very long relationship, about 6/7 years back in high school. We’re 24 now, I should include. He’s brought up the idea of an open relationship but it’s a tough thing because we both don’t want to do it, but it’s on his mind, and if one of us doesn’t want to do it then we don’t want to breakup. It’s a mental battle that he’s been dealing with, but we both feel the same that we don’t want the other going out and doing things with other people. People have mentioned the idea of an open relationship, so that’s why he’s thought about it, but we’re both not inclined to it because we love each other very much. He wants to work on not thinking about the idea. I brought up the idea of doing couples therapy, but I want to know what others think for suggestions. What suggestions do you guys have? I want to help him through this, but what other options are out there. He doesn’t want to do the open relationship, cause he wants to be with me, but what’s the alternative? Or how do you mentally sort through these thoughts?

** Also, please do not take jabs at our relationship or poke at one person. I am asking for advice, not criticism.