I’ll try to make this simple but at the same time still provide as much necessary details as possible. I started dating one of my co workers after she quit because she has a rule that she doesn’t date co workers, and she was planning to leave the job anyways so i guess it kind of worked out. On the last week before she left, one of my other co workers, a older guy, I’m 37 btw, he’s probably maybe in his 50s? Well anyways, he was making small chit chat with her about the next job etc and mentioned to her about his second job. He then gave her all the information etc and then wished her good luck. For this story ill assign his name as Greg.

So the day after she left, we started going out and getting to know each other. Everything was going great and we are still together to this day. About 2-3 months after she quit she then decides to go apply for the job that Greg was telling her about and she gets hired and starts working. Everything was going pretty cool, and maybe a month or two in she moves out from her moms to get her own place. One day I came over to visit her and spend the night, because her work shift is 7pm-330 am 5 days a week. So I spend the night and she comes home in the morning. I wake up and start getting ready for work and when I opened the refrigerator there are roses in it. I asked her where she got them from and she said Greg got it for her as a house warming gift. Ok.

At that time I didn’t think too much of it, so I proceeded to go to work. I then get to work and during my shift I walk over to Greg and thank him for referring my girlfriend into his work and he said no problem. A few more weeks go by and I spend the night once again. When I wake up and get ready for work, same thing like deja vu, another dozen roses in the refrigerator. I once again ask, lol who’s getting you roses?? And she replies greg got me those. Ok….another week goes by and bam once again. A few more weeks go by and yet again! Another dozen roses. So I then ask her who’s been buying you all these damn roses haha and she replied, Greg. Ok. Well why the hell is he buying you roses? And she replied that Greg bought them for her and he bought some for his wife too. Ok. I’m starting to feel strange. The following week I have tickets to go to a basketball game and she’s off and home that day. I come over and she asks hey do you have tickets to that game? I said yea. Oh ok I think I’ll see you there then. Wait what?? You got tickets too? Greg asked me to go to the game with him. I reply, why? You and Greg and his wife? Nope. Greg said all he wanted for his birthday is to go to the game with me. Now at this time my spidey senses are tingling like crazy! And I ended up, sadly, peeking at her phone when she fell asleep. And I find text message after text message between her and Greg. For about 4 months straight. I scroll all the way to the top and it’s just the general stuff, ya know like work talk because she just started. Then it starts getting real weird. And I am particular with people on what words they use when they speak etc. Greg starts asking for a dolled up pic of her, calling her beautiful, and it progressed into I love you. I’m reading these texts and she’s not really the one pursuing, nor is she entertaining him so much that it would have kept it all going. So now I’m like, wait a fucking min lol. I’ve been working with Greg for over 10 years, dudes married has kids has his wife’s photos even at his desk at work where everyone can see. Wtf is he doing? Lol. So I then get to asking her, hey is there some kinda funny shit going on between you and Greg and she replies like grossed out, wtf is wrong with you! That guy is old as shit he’s just a old man and needed a lunch break friend to eat with. We go back and forth for a min or two and I then tell her, you aren’t going to that game with him. She replies but I already said I would go. Smh.

Babe, I need to ask you this. This doesn’t seem strange to you one bit? He has a wife and two kids at home, both over the age of 18 that can accompany him to the game, why the hell would he want to go with just the two of you?!? So fast forward she still works with Greg but they work different areas now as she spends her lunch break in her car now, because she now calls and face times me, both of which I didn’t impose, etc. and I still work with Greg. And to be quite honest, I’m lucid and pissed. I’ve been wanting to confront him because I honestly and genuinely believe he was possibly trying to have a affair with my gf on his wife.

So my question is one of many, was I in the wrong for telling my gf she can’t talk to him or go to the game ? Should I confront him? Tell his wife? We’re both in strong professional careers and as mad as I am, I think I may feel bad if our entire workplace found because unfortunately in my work, word spreads quick, and I’m just so pissed with him I can’t afford to lose my job getting physical but I still feel the need to confront him. What do I do?!?