My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 2 months now.... about 3 weeks ago she confided to me that she had cheated on her previous boyfriend and that he never found out. She seemed to feel quite guilty, though Im not sure full accountability has been taken tbh. This really shook me bad because suddenly I have tons of anxiety about the relationship now. Im paranoid that Im dealing with the trickster side. The liar. Now I know I am literally going to be worried in the future any time shes away, or on a trip, or out with friends... I actually cannot control these thoughts that Im losing sleep, and I can feel myself distancing from her quickly...

Ive talked to her about it twice now very honestly and directly, and she said shes understanding and wants to try to work through it. She also clearly looks very hurt when I bring this up. Im going kinda crazy with anxiety, fear, and even thinking of ways to find out if shes lying. But what kind of long term situation is that... no trust, constantly worried... should I trust her? How can I trust her ...? is trust something outside of logical control, is it totally emotional?