High school sweethearts who have been together for almost 8 years. I’d say over the last 5-6 months we have grown distant, to no doing of my own. Now her grandfather just passed away last week, so looking at it right now it seems reasonable to say she is distant due to his passing for which they were very very close. However, she has been distant with me for far longer. We used to text back and forth all day long and spend basically all our time together for so many years and it has been great. Recently though when we text she seems disinterested, and when we are together she is distant. She doesn’t even say I love you when she leaves for work in the morning unless I say it first. She won’t text me throughout the day while I’m at work unless I text her first even though she is on Facebook during the day and Snapchat when she isn’t working. She also goes to her mothers house after work basically every day and while I’m at work and that’s fine, but she doesn’t come home when I get home so I legit see her when she gets home at night and then we just go to bed and repeat the next day. We have talked about it, and I let her know how it’s making me feel kind of neglected in a way. She says that she isn’t in the “lovey dovey” mood currently. I’m really not sure what that means. Saying I love you and just being there for your partner shouldn’t be considered lovey dovey it should just be because you love each other and are engaged. I’m really at a loss because I love this girl with everyone I have and our family’s all love each other. I’ve been trying to push through this rough few months and was there for her every step of the way with her grandfather passing. But I just don’t know how much longer I can go on being both physically and emotionally neglected like this. It’s like a random switch was flipped. Any advice? I’ve asked for counseling and she says we don’t need it.