Okay so title is self explanatory. (9mo. relationship) My ex and I broke up on boxing day, but he’s yet to move out. We both have bad mental health and are also poor (he doesnt have a job due to personal circumstances which are genuinely fair enough) so he’s on a job seeker scheme. I honestly dont know how else to help him, though. When he’s depressed, I try and be there for him, because he becomes catatonic. Just a few days ago he admitted he doesn’t think he can take care of himself in this state, which, yeah fair tbh.

But Ive done so much to help and there’s no improving. I took on all the rent (I would have to anyways after he moves out) and he only pays for internet and electricity. He keeps ordering takeaway from the money he would be putting away from not paying rent.

I help him with job applications because he hates paperwork. I keep on showing him shit on flatmates and rental sites and he keeps saying he doesnt want to message anyone because he wont be able to afford the bond/downpayment.

I try so hard but it’s so fucking hard. I dont want to throw anything at his head but I’m gonna be honest I’m starting to resent him. I really am trying to help him and he cant even up hold his end of the fucking bargain of putting some FUCKING money aside. I dont know what to do and i honestly just wish I dropped dead so i wouldnt have to deal with this.

I dont want to throw him out, because I do care about him and our friendship. We also have shared friends and I don’t want to lose them either.

Please help :(

Because he’s gotten judgement for the no job thing, I just want to say it’s because of a cocktail of medical conditions and medical (and age based) discrimination is very common in the workforce here. I’m not going to divulge what it is for privacy, but honestly let that part be.

TLDR i made all accomodations to help my ex move out and I feel like he doesnt respect me enough to uphold his side of the bargain.