I'm not great at writing these things, but here we are, right? I'm currently in a weird place with my poly identity - I ended a long term primary relationship last summer that I had put a lot of myself into, anyone I am dating is married and/or lives in another state - neither of whom are serious options, and most of the people who approach me these days are not looking for anything past FWB - For some this would be an ideal situation, for me not so much, and it feels weird to say I'm "dating with purpose" in this context, but I guess that's where I am. So I guess my point is, I feel like I'm much better at being an adult human when I have a primary partner, and miss having someone in my life who feels like home and who I can be that for as well.

Moving on, here's the about me: Big time comic book and general pop culture nerd. I'm 6'2", dad bod, sort of in my elder goth era, semi-heavily tattooed, beard, hispanic, home owner, fairly well employed, no kids/vasectomied, and pay my own bills, my only real vices are THC or a drink every now and then, but neither is a regular thing. I try to make time to go to concerts, check out restaurants and do Vegas-y things, I think I make a great piece of arm candy personally, definitely miss having a partner who wants to show me off and enjoys getting dolled up for a night on the town once in a while,, or doing silly fun things like coordinating outfits for an event. I enjoy travel like most people, I go to 2-3 comic cons per year, a good vacation is definitely great for mental health. Also love being a homebody, enjoy cooking when I have someone to cook for, have made my home into a cozy nest in general...in spring through early fall, any excuse to be in the pool or lay out near it is a good one. Some of the kindest things friends have said about me: "You're like, the only cis male in my life I don't wanna stab" "You're just like pure Daddy energy, dude" and "The brother I never wanted"

I was recently asked what my ideal relationship would be - and I thought I'd found it, but life happens! I know some frown on heirarchical poly relationships, but it's just what works best for me. Having my person, who wants to be with me and wants me to be with them and not having to have that feeling of insecurity or that need for constant reassurance, regardless of anyone else we may have in our lives. Something maybe not quite KTP, as that can feel forced at times, but definitely not a situation where we have to feel threatened by each others' relationships, and absolutely not a situation where we are always looking for greener grass elsewhere. And while I may not be vanilla, I'm not really super into any scene/lifestyle as far as that goes... I'm not against it, but prefer those types of things with a partner. I don't think I have a "type", really - but looking back, I do get along best with people who have a passion for some type of nerdy thing, I love being able to learn about those things and enhance those things for them as best I can. And one more thing - while I don't at all expect someone to be available to me 24/7, I need IRL connection. So if the idea of long term anything, where we can talk regularly, and at least see each other a few times a month isn't something that can happen, I'm probably not your huckleberry, but I'm always happy to make new friends!

I've got plenty of photos for trade, and am cool with starting via PM here or telegram/kik if that's easier. I'm not everyone's cup of tea, I know - But I'm someone's, I also know that. Maybe they'll find me!

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