I recently met a man I really like. We are both poly and kinky. But our kinks don’t really line up. Mine are mainly praise, sub/brat and role play. Things we can do alone. His is mainly group sex or watching his woman have sex with others.

I’m demisexual and don’t get turned on by random people. I might get turned on by group sex in a CNC situation, but mostly the thought makes my skin crawl.

I tried to play with a toy yesterday, thinking he would be excited about seeing me pleasured by another member. But he didn’t seem excited about it.

And when we have sex it’s mostly straight vanilla, which doesn’t always arouse me.

I’ve told him about my kinks and he doesn’t take the bait. I’ve also told him that maybe one of his other partners can satisfy his kink because I’m willing to try but not sure I can.

Has anyone else experienced this? I’m worried that it is pointing out that we are just incompatible sexually.