I am a person who dates separately, and practices Kitchen Table. I recently met a person who also uses the phrase "Kitchen Table," but who does things in a slightly more engaged way. Think "cuddle pile around the hinge." I wouldn't go so far as to call it lap-sitting polyamory, but elements of that seem to be present and things feel like they could head that way.

That's just not how I do things, and it's been causing me some discomfort. If I'm not seeing someone, I don't exactly want to be in an intimate situation with them.

Anyone have any experience reconciling this sort of thing?

Of course the answer is "talk to my partner." and "If I don't like it, I don't have to go for it." I am looking for lived experiences. I could see myself adjusting, but I'm not sure if I want to.