My wife and I are new to polyamory. We have had friends with benefits for years, this year is when we decided to explore polyamory.

I have a long distance girlfriend. My wife is trying to find local partners.

She told she was going on a date Tuesday night. I was happy for her. She gave me high level details she was meeting this guy for drinks.

Problem arose when 1am came around. I hadn’t heard from her. I sent her a quick text to make sure she was ok. No response, no read status.

Every hour after that I gave her a quick call or wait quick text. I started to really get worried. I panicked. I had to take care of the kids in the morning at 6am.

My wife eventually texted me at 5am saying she drank too much and spent the night at the guys place. She came home at 6am.

I was furious. I was upset she didn’t tell me she was going to spend the night, that she dranked too much, that she was unreachable for hours. I was upset to be kept in the dark and having to rearrange my morning to take care of the kids morning routine.

Part of me feels like I am overreacting since we didn’t agree on a set time to go home. Other part of me is really pissed that she didn’t come home as she implied she would.

For next dates, I will ask for a general window of time and to be informed if plans change.

Any tips to share?