So I was chatting with my ex, I said I wasn't doing that well and cited some relationship troubles, and he says:

"I don't know what that non-mono life is like and what you expect of it... But for it to work you shouldn't get too close to people, because they won't think of living it with you forever"

Yeah.. It hurt.
And he did not respond to my answer (he never was one to ignore msgs, I didn't push bc is not my right anymore)

I know we have different views of non monogamy and we function differently, that is why our 7year relationship ended (6 of those non-mono, and in very good terms).I don't know why I got so affected, it seems he reframed all we lived through, all our conversations to mean it all was empty so he could move on.

That it couldn't have been be real because I choose non-mono over him in the end. I know it's not my right anymore to demand anything of him, or demand he takes the same lessons and positiveness and gratitude from every single moment of our relationship as I did, but It's just hard.

I just got very down crying most of the day, I guess what he said hit some insecurities because my BF moved across the world and I have no idea how that will go, he works great with non-mono, even got me to explore some facets of it I haven't before, but he hasn't a commitment to it.

So yeah, the "people won't want it long term with me" poked the wound.