I have been dating this woman for 6 months now.

About a month ago (long distance so don't see each other regularly) she admitted to me that the sexusl connection was no longer present for her, and attributed the connection that had existed to novelty.

She still wants to date and have much of a similar emotional connection to what we've had, which I had thought I would be okay with, having dated multiple ace people where that connection has obviously not existed, but...

That connection remains really present for me, I have memory of times where the desire we felt for one another was palpable, something which we had talked about and acknowledged. Now I feel my energy reaching out with this yearning and in that place where I once felt a returned desire.. Just nothing

There's no making it with each other, no long held eye gazes anymore, just a peck on the lips and some touch.

At times I feel more like I'm being dated out of convenience rather than any sort of emotional desire for me.

When I'm spending time with her I can almost ignore it. She's absolutely wonderful as a person, has similar humour and a ridiculously charming smile, afterwards though I feel kinda empty.

I've had a pretty rough year this year and have lost multiple family members, & earlier in the year was supporting one of my partners through work related burnout, in addition to some health issues I've experienced all of which has made connecting to my own erotic energy difficult. This person has been one of the few people where I've actually been able to tap into that part of myself with.

Part of me wonders how much all this may have effected her experience of things, and whether there is more that could have been done to cultivate that connection on my end.

I've had access to supports recently that have allowed me to start feeling more towards myself again and things have become more difficult for me.

I know that I'm going to end up having to talk to her about what I'm finding difficult in this, and that this change is still a super recent thing in a very early days connection, things may get easier and things may shift.

I also know there's a pretty big chance that I won't get what I need to remain in a romantic connection with her.

Anyway just musing a whole bunch.