I will try to keep this short, but it’s a vent so it may not turn out that way. My husband and I have been poly for 10 years, and for the last 5 I have had an amazing boyfriend P. P is also married with a family. Over the last 9 months or so I have noticed a change in P. I started noticing a pattern of when he would text me or have time for me. He started acting weird and just not acting like himself when talking to me one time but the next would be normal. He started making comments to me that I don’t feel were necessarily ok given the fact I was his secondary, and his wife his primary. He also started telling me issues going on in their marriage. I tried to talk to him about everything, and he just skirted around my issues and didn’t give me any real answers, just long winded, beat around the bush kind of answers. So I dropped it. Fast forward a couple months and things have just gotten worse, so I try to once again to talk to him about things before an upcoming weekend together and he got angry and told me he was tired of being made to feel like he was doing something wrong and that if there was an issue it was mine and mine alone. I dropped it and never brought up our relationship or issues again. He had something come up and was unable to spend the weekend with me, and it wasn’t the first time he has canceled last minute on me. I was hurt and not sure what to do. After several long heart to hearts with my husband I decided that maybe I needed to step back from my relationship with P, not end it but maybe we needed to be more friends than anything. He is a huge part of my life and I didn’t want to lose him, even if I lost the relationship we once had. I stopped sending pics, flirting, reaching out to tell him silly little things, etc. We still talked but it was very casual and brief until one day I just stopped hearing from him and I haven’t in 2 months. He still looks at my social media (every single story I post he views), but doesn’t react to anything or talk to me at all. I know I could reach out but at this point I don’t see the point. He won’t have a conversation with me that needs to be had, and then tries to make me feel like I’m in the wrong for it. So 5 years just gone. I lost someone I loved. I lost a close friend and confidant. The worst part is I don’t know what happened and won’t ever get answers.