I've been mono my whole life, mainly from lack of exploration. Recently met someone who practices ENM and finally gave me the opportunity to try it out. Before anyone says it, I'm not getting into it because of him. I've talked about opening up my previous relationships before so it's always been on my mind, just never bothered/had the opportunity to explore until now.

I've checked this subreddit and have only found nuggets of info on this in comments of other posts. I see a lot of people talking about a "grieving process" when unlearning all of the mono bs we've been fed our whole lives. My main issue I think is just codependency, because mono relationships tend to be riddled with that. I don't mind hearing him talk about his other partner, and when we're together I don't feel he likes me any less just because he has feelings for someone else too. But when I'm alone, sometimes I overthink what he's doing with them or if his feelings for me are changing. Stuff like that. I always communicate this with him.

I'm really just asking for advice/affirmations/activities I can do in these moments that may help me unlearn old ideologies and understand my place as an ENM.