Just to clarify, I am a monogamous person who just came out of a relationship with a partner who identified as poly, but wanted me to be her primary. Anyway, the question I have is this. With myself as the primary and she has other romantic partners, how does the partner balance fall into place? I dont understand the concept of having an overall good time with someone, but then going home to the primary and its not always going to be a good time. Every committed relationship has its ups and downs.

Am I as the primary supposed to just be okay with my partner going out having fun with other partners but meanwhile Im having to do all the heavy lifting with the relationship and making it work through the tough times? Who doesnt want a relationship where its romantic but there are no arguments about being committed and making it work. Hope this all makes sense. Just a thought I had thats been on my mind.