As I’m watching a Netflix documentary series about pleasure and healthy sex life im reminded of how powerless I am. Not really personally just situationally. Liking someone, and getting rejected. Swiping right on everyone just to see if anyone likes you back and then after trying to see if you have anything in common. All the talk about finding sex, finding the pleasure all seems a little too fantastical. How am I going to communicate about how to best be able to provide pleasure if I can’t get to a date.

Time and time again they focused on how sex was an integral part to a healthy life. Thoughts of “that’s all fine and good I know what to do when I get there, but how?” Thinking of everything against me, not particularly hot, mildly funny at best, yet I still have to overcome every other man’s transgressions and break down all barriers. Yet if I put effort into breaking barriers I’m not hearing the no. At my current rate I’m looking at finding a girlfriend in 3 years.

Am I missing something? Am I overlooking any simple methods, tools, or skills? How is it possible to break through?