I can’t for the life of me make any good hypotheses about what was going on between a woman I was shortly seeing and their primary partner. Met on Feeld with the intentions of ENM (not necessarily poly) but with true connection. She was very eager to meet me and my male partner and we discussed some solo play as well. We had a bit of that between threesomes and soft group play and solo play. She wanted and initiated lots of caring, regular texting. Suddenly went colder a month later and said she was struggling with depression.. then flaked and without giving much info said that she was feeling off. Ghosted for 2 weeks before I checked in and they said that they were “working through a transition” with said partner but didn’t want to share about it. When I spoke up about the continued ghosting and offered support or a sense of communication about the change, she disconnected and got angry that my needs were irrational. On Feeld I noticed that their bios are no longer linked, single now from couple status, yet her bio says “ENM & in a relationship”… and his doesn’t? Why would that be? So confusing & also disappointed that when a secondary speaks up, we are sometimes met with being told we are being too emotional and that is not in line with fair expectations. Communicate to your secondaries openly and honestly when your behavior is drastically changing. Is this also just dating? Would appreciate any theories and also tips!