I’ve made two postings here and gotten good feedback with a reasonable amount of downvotes to some of my responses being overly passive aggressive or just generally controlling. I forgot what post it was here but I saw a mention of a book that I bought last night. The book is called poly secure I got through two chapters on breaks from working around the new home. (Renovation yay)

I just wanted to say thank you to this community for being open with information flow I thought it was gatekeepy at first then I realized there’s just a lot of people posting the same stuff I posted.

Back to the book it immediately helped me identify my attachment style and where I fall on the 2D scale for attachment anxiety and avoidance and that even if I have a negative attachment style I do have positive qualities. I sat there are read aloud the sections the pertained to me to my NP as she worked around the rooms. In two chapters alone I’ve been able to piece together what I might be doing wrong and where I can improve as I read more and more.

So again thank you to this community for letting me lurk, vent, ask questions and putting up with a lot of people like me who just post here in hopes of hearing what they want vs what they need. To whoever mentioned this book thank you so much I think being able to self teach and even take these notes to my counselor will help me find a way to being more secure about myself and polyamory.