Ok. So, fiancé and I have 1.5 yr old, are currently moving, and he’s seeing 2 people aside from me. I see others but more casually and usually do it during the day. This weekend we’re moving a load to our new house, and he said he has to come back Sunday night for work Monday (sometimes he can do work remotely Monday and we stay). No problem. He’s taking our son so he can drop him at daycare Monday morning so we can both work unimpeded.

He said I could come home Sunday or stay til Monday. I decide I’ll see how I feel Sunday and play it by ear. Then, he calls me and said do I know what I’m doing Sunday bc my meta wants to come stay if I’m not gonna be there. I said, do you not want me to come home so she can come over? (Keep in mind he usually has 1 overnight a week, which he’s doing Friday with his other partner). He said he doesn’t care and that I should say what I’m doing. Few more back and forth with me saying well what do you want and him not caring and telling me to decide. So I said fine. Tell her I’ll be there bc that’s worse case scenario. And I don’t wanna have to decide until Sunday like I’d told him before (something he does to me all the time, including last weekend).

He says fine I’ll tell her not to come. I ask again, should I not come back? He says do what you want. We stop short of an argument but it was tense. Then I text later you can still invite her over, and if I come home fine and if I don’t bonus for her? (She’s been over with me there before, neither one of us mind). And he says he doesn’t want to think about it right now.

So my question is…. Am I being a bad partner? I feel like he needs to be a better hinge/partner and just say what he wants. It’s not my job to make time for them, but if he asks me I will? What would you do in this situation? Why is he putting the onus on me here? Am I wrong to feel annoyed?

tdlr: my partner is hinge, won’t tell me what he wants and tries to make me decide whether I’m coming home Sunday or Monday so he can decide if he wants to invite meta over. I had previously said I’d decide Sunday.