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First canceled date (halp, I have a sad)
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My NP is being very sweet & giving me space to be in my feels, but I don't really have anyone else to process with so... can I haz validation? (and if I'm being wrongheaded about something ...gently let me know that too?)

I'm new to polyamory and was really excited about my date tonight. They are only the 3rd or 4th person I've met up with, and the first since the Pandemic. Anyway, I've had two in-person dates and two video dates with this shiny new Person, and I'm starting to develop a crush. Tonight They texted me right as I was getting in the car, saying they were having a bad mental health day. It's a totally legit reason and I love that they're actively communicating what they need.

But I'm still sad to be missing out on the cuddles and pink cloudiness of being around them. And feeling a little insecure as I watch my attachment system process my disappointment and then freak out trying to figure out what I did wrong. I'm pretty sure I'm over-analyzing little comments that hit my insecurities, 'cause most of those comments were also examples of them asking for what they want (for me to stink less, which is totally reasonable) in relatively polite ways.

But the insecure parts of me are SO SURE I'm about to get dumped or ghosted, even though I've got ZERO evidence supporting that. I've even got evidence of them wanting to meet up again (in their text), in that we had another in-person date planned for next week. Cognitively, I know this is me being a little insecure/borderliney ...but ma feels is sad y'all!

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