My man (B) and I have been together 4 years. We met when I was with my ex gf.

I've been polyam for 3 years. I went to school with a guy who I've been seeing (s). Not so much lately because of my man.

Well I started seeing S and it was so much fun. He's older by a couple of years. He's tall. Hes more talkative. I honestly just enjoy his presence and the Sexx. But B does not approve at all. He has a serious opp and it urkes me to my core. Because even if I want to just hang out and do nothing sexual with S he doesn't want it to happen because he thinks all I want and all anyone wants is Sexx. Which makes it difficult to be polyam. I understand my partner wanting to be mono but we've talked about this so many times. He's had every kind of reason to piss me off and make me wanna curl up on a ball and cry.

His reasons: He doesn't want me to get hurt or used or abused or manipulated.

He doesn't want guys to treat me bad or steal me away from him or allow me to fall I. Love with then and leave him.

He doesn't want me to be around or with anyone who does not like him or who talks bad about him in any way.

He just doesn't like the idea of anyone being with me but him.

I've done all the reassuring I could do. We spend all of our time together. We rarely have sexx. I don't go anywhere without him. Or without telling him every detail.

Yes everyone has told me he is a possessive control freak and I have told him this as well. Which led to him telling me he just really loves me and doesn't want to lose me or let anything happen to me.

But I really want to see S and spend time with him and date him and have sexx with him and build something. But I don't want to go about it the wrong way with B.

I try telling him hey S asked me to come over and watch TV and chat and stuff. And B usually becomes visibly upset and I just lie to S and tell him something came up because I don't want to lose him.