Recently partner left me and I ended up finding out somethings I never knew. I’m looking for thoughts and opinions on the matter.

1. While my partner and I weren’t labelled as dating they still referred to me as their boyfriend to others. At one point I found out that they had been on tinder again after asking if they were looking for anyone and being told no. They ended up finding someone new not too long after that saying they didn’t plan on it and things just happen. They were even in contact with other people from tinder still. I feel like if you’re going looking for something it doesn’t “just happen”.

2. They told this new partner a lot of personal information about myself. Traumas, fears, issues, and history. They never asked if they could do this. This new partner of theirs ended up throwing this all back in my face in an altercation. I felt deeply betrayed knowing our time talking had never been truly a safe space and my issues used against me. My ex later apologized for this saying what they did was extremely shitty and immature. They didn’t wanna give me more trauma. To this day I don’t know why they did what they did as we’ve gone no contact.

Any thoughts and advice on these matters are greatly appreciated. The second point is what currently is bothering me the most and am having trouble dealing with. Thanks in advance.