So I have been dating this woman for about a year and a half now and have started seeing a couple of other people too (occasional play partners) my long term relationship with an older man which has been going on for 10 years now.

The LTR is with someone who is married and the main poly relationship I’m in is with a woman who has another partner she has been seeing a lot of, in addition to this older man she started dating about 4-5 months ago. Now they have been seeing each other at least 1 to 2 times per week and while I’m getting used to the way she spends time with him - this weird thing has started to happen… if I see her the day after she is with him… or later the same day, I am always incredibly horny. I often spend time thinking about what they are doing with each other and get so turned on, I have to touch myself. I find i love it as it drives me WILD to know he was enjoying her and almost using her for his pleasure.

I have similar kinks but I feel this isn’t the healthiest way to approach what’s going on with us.

Any advice?