Hey there!

I’m asking this out of curiosity. Some of my friends are in a polycule and me and my SO occasionally hook up with one or several people in this polycule. We always practice safe sex but i saw two of them having sex without a condom, while he has a nesting partner too and doesn’t use condoms with her either.

A fee weeks later a girl from this polycule comes to me and asks where i get my regular STD checks, because they are really expensive where she gets them. She told she wants to get tested because she wants to stop using condoms with yet another partner, who is married to another woman.

First of all i find it beautiful how they all practice ENM, i know the members of this group and they all treat each other so well. It’s just great.

Her question made me realize that they maybe eventually all have sex with one another without protection. Which is fine off course, when everyone is tested. I would not do it so quickly myself, because i would need a very very solid bond of trust with all of the people and i have trust issues.

How so you guys handle this kind of situations?