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I’ll start by saying maybe read my previous post. I figured making a second post might help as I have new info now.
So R and I spoke about their discussion with A they had the other night. A still is very firm with not wanting communication between us, is very adamant because they don’t like me and very much doesn’t want R and I together. I learned that some of this stems from an incident in my past where I cheated in a relationship of which firstly idk why that would be A’s business to know and why R told them of which they regret now. But I’ve learned from that mistake and strive to be better. A is also NB and I’ve used incorrect pronouns when talking about them a few times but not maliciously. Just comes down to me talking to fast and I am usually pretty good at correcting myself when I notice and have even asked R to point this out and correct me if I miss it. A firmly believes though that it’s basically an attack against them and I’m purposely disrespecting them.
Why am I the only one willing to be decent about this between the two of us? I’m 28 and their 23, is it an age / maturity difference? If I’m willing to put aside my feelings after the stunt they just pulled with R along with their addiction which is a whole other thing that makes me uncomfortable, why can’t they? Especially over something that didn’t even involve them. How long are we suppose to sit here and wait for them to get off their high horse? It just makes me so frustrated and annoyed and just boggles my mind that someone wants to purposely go out of their way to make things difficult for their partner instead of being cooperative and making life slightly easier.
R has decided that they’re going to withhold info from A and I unless we specifically ask and start reaching out to a neutral party when struggling with relationship issues which I understand and feel like it could help things going forward.
As always thank you everyone who comments and gives me their input. This is a strange new world for myself and having this kind of support helps immensely.
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