It’s been coming for a few weeks, we’ve been in a triad with my husband (41m), J, for a while but I never should have started dating her. She had never been in a polyamorous relationship before and had never been in a relationship with a woman before. Things were great until my body went haywire on my and I was on my period for 3 weeks straight. This is rare but happens sometimes with my PCOS. Then she only wanted to have sex with J. We’d snuggle and watch movies together but whenever I would try to initiate sex, she was tired from having sex with him or we had somewhere we had to go, for 2 months. I finally asked her if there was something I could do to improve our physical connection and it turns out she’s not attracted to me physically at all but she wants to keep dating me for the emotional connection. I haven’t even been able to respond to that as I’ve made it very clear that I’m not asexual and I like having sex with my partners. I’m still encouraging my husband to continue their relationship and for them to go away together this weekend like we were all going to do and I’ll stay home with our kids. I’ve been crying all day and trying to figure out what is wrong with me as the last woman I was in love with only wanted sex and didn’t want to spend time with me if I couldn’t for any reason and now the woman I fell in love with only wants the emotional part but no physical contact. I try really hard to be a good partner and make sure everything is ethical and watching for couple’s privileges but I keep getting slapped in the face. I’m just ready to give up, stop flirting, and just stay home.