Married husband (m47) and I (f37) have been ENM for about 6 years now. I've recently started seeing other men alone. Husband has access to all messages and gets very angry and passive aggressive when I don't do what he wants me to do as far as how I communicate with other men.

For example, I'm talking to a guy I saw before we met. We were supposed to meet last night but I haven't heard from him since Monday. I wanted to text him to confirm Wednesday or Thursday but husband convinced me not to text him. He said texting the other guy to confirm plans is "chasing". I just think we had tentative plans, why not check in, maybe he's busy, maybe something came up in his life. I didn't text him until last night, he said he thought we were on but didn't hear from me, he claims he's been working long days and thought he text me Thursday. Husband wanted me to ghost him but I felt it necessary to tell him I was disappointed that he didn't communicate and we didn't get to meet.

Now husband and I are fighting because I didn't listen to him. He claims I don't respect his opinion. I said I can respect your opinion but that doesn't mean I have to do what you say.

Am I wrong?