I know poly hate labels and I respect this, I do, BUUUUUT, I LOVE using words that have meaning and depth - it's the reader, writer, and lover of words in me. Being able to define exactly what I am looking for and (hopefully) finding others that understand these words/terms and want the same is very alluring. So bare with me, I'm about to ask for and use labels.

Also, what I'm writing here I write in my dating profiles and/or discuss early in my relationships. Instead of writing this out, could I just use an appropriate term and someone would know what it means?

Me: Single, divorced from a deadbedroom, bi female, late-30's. Extroverted 20% of the time, Introverted 80% but fully into one or the other at a time - like a light switch for me.

When I meet new people or good friends, that 20% Extrovert is all in and going hard! I'm fun, bubbly, inquisitive, approachable, and genuinely enjoying myself and others. However, when that internal bell rings and I go introverted, it's fully introvert to the point I gotta run or I start to feel trapped if I don't. I've been doing the solo thing with occasional dating here and there for a few years now but in the end, that 80% holds me back from having a normal, healthy relationship with those seeking traditional relationships.

The past two years I have been sexually involved with two couples and while they are friends, it all stops at close friends. I enjoy it but I recognize that need more now. I need and want that romantic and physical connection, but only for short periods of time. I want to be there for others, too. I enjoy that as well.

Is there a term for this?