My (m31) wife (f29) have been together for 12 years, polyam for 3ish. A few months ago I hit it off with an incredible woman (35) who for the first time made me think outside of "hierarchal" polyam. She's currently monogamous, at least until she feels completely secured in our relationship. But that's where the hardship starts. She's never done the "officially polyam" stuff until me, and she's now discovering all those feelings of possession and jealousy and inadequacy and such. She's actively working through them and is doing incredibly well, especially in such a short amount of time that she's been with me. What I'm asking is for some links to articles and advice that I can share with her to help her come to terms with her emotions and the relationship were in. TIA.

*edit Thanks for all the reality checks, guys. Some where a bit harsh, perhaps, but sometimes you gotta get smacked upside the head to hear things. I hear your advice/criticisms and am mulling it all over.