While this is true, a lot of poly people look for that info in someone's bio, because they're tired of swiping right on mono people. So leaving it out means that a bunch of poly people are passing on you... which sucks since it's already such a small pool.

I feel like it's more important to include for that reason.

Of course to each their own.

I’m not sure it correlates to that. I’m solo poly, tend toward RA and hate labels. I resist claiming it as an identity… and yet, it is who I am. I require plurality.

You hate the cliques and reject turning polyamory into a consuming hobby like some people do. Me too. But it’s still deeply connected to who you are though, is it not?

Expecting the disclosure of non-negotiables in a profile doesn’t mean someone is as you claim. So much time is wasted online dating. It can be exhausting and defeating. People like to know up front if there are deal breakers: must love dogs; vegan; have kids, don’t want more; am straight/gay/bi.

Polyamorous folk are a tiny minority. Knowing that someone is poly encourages me to swipe because I know it’s not a complete waste, and that we are in agreement with a fundamentally important part of who we are and what we want. Throw me a bone! Show me we move through the world in compatible ways.

Don’t you wind up having an inordinate amount of dead-end conversation and needless awkward first dates?

I guess to put it back to… why not put? Mono people will pass and most poly people will be grateful. Are you trying to encourage mono people to connect with you?

By and large I agree. I'm definitely the more relaxed type. Any yet, here we are. 😉

How often do you find you match with someone, only to discover you're both poly but didn't say so? How often do you match with someone mono who doesn't care?