Hi. New here but I ran into a situation that I would like unbiased input on. So I am in a polyam relationship with a wonderful woman. We will call her (A) she has another partner (B). And B has a wife. I have been with A for about half a year. She has been with B for about a year. Everything was going well as far as I knew. They A, B and Bs wife are now hiking the PCT and a month into the five month journey. About a week ago it was explained to her by B that there were a few communication errors many months ago. These errors to me and A are trivial mistakes (more like B not making expectations clear) yet we understood that that is no reason to write it off as they may be big to him. Everyone is different. I am always on board to do my part and make everyone involved comfortably and find solutions. Then B sprung it on A that because of the past errors he wants her to Break it off with me and be mono with him whilst he still be in other relationships. From what I have learned so far I did not think that was an ethical ask of a partner. Again I’m new to it. I always want to be able to put myself in someone else’s shoes. I like and respect B because he makes A happy and her happiness is all I long for. However it is very difficult for me to see why that request is ok at all partly because the errors are so minor and more miscommunication. And I would never ask her to break up with someone she loved to “fix” a situation I had with her. I want her decisions to be hers alone. That way she is happy with her choices. I want her to be her without me changing a thing about herself. It’s what I fell in love with. So I ask your opinions on the situation. Maybe info so I can better understand the situation as it pertains to poly life. Is it an ok ask? I want to be a better partner and learn more about being poly for myself, her, and us. Thank you so much for your time. All feedback welcomed