So my (28 m) girlfriend (25 f) of 6 years just started seeing someone about a month ago. We’d discussed polyamory previously but nothing really every happened with it until now.

Communication has been AMAZING, with a few hiccups about miscommunicated boundaries here and there but nothing that we haven’t been able to talk out together.

My biggest issue is my own emotions. Mentally I’m very okay with everything going on and even excited that she’s able to explore with someone new that she cares about. I even think they’re pretty cool.

But my jealousy and insecurity have become inconsolable monsters. I feel like I’m crying every day and don’t want to place any burden in her and her budding relationship. Personally I’m graduating from a biology program and starting a new job very soon, and I’m not mentally or emotionally in a place that I’m looking for another partner at the moment.

I also feel like I’ve been getting in the way of their relationship growing, as they’re both being very respectful of my comfort, but I don’t feel like it’s changing much.

Has anyone come across a good way of dealing with this? I feel like it’s not getting any easier but I don’t want to hurt her or her awesome new partner.