So I’m having and existential reckoning with this one. I deeply love my paramour and want to share everything. If I share with my paramour the relationship problems with my primary, my paramour gets emotionally involved with the problem and starts to have bad feelings against my primary. In these cases, the feelings ARE justified, but I don’t want any resentment or problems between the two of them.

I guess I know the answer is to not share the problems. In a similar way, I stopped talking about work at home. I just don’t anymore, and things have been much better. I just can’t help but feel like I’m withholding important information and feelings and not being 100% present.

MY answer is to keep it to myself, but I’m a bit new to this type of lifestyle and would love to hear how anyone else here handles this