Howdy! I'm looking for advise from the femmes and thems on how you like to be asked out, flirted with, spoken to, and propositioned by other femmes and thems. I think I try so hard to be respectful of other women and femme presenting folks, and to not come off as aggressive, for obvious reasons (society, safety, I'm sure you all can imagine why I'd want to approach women differently) that maybe it's not clear that I'm interested. I'm not trying to be sexist at all, nor am I using this as a way to use this sub for dating (I know that's not allowed). But I've never done the f2f relationship before without a husband or boyfriend involved, and I really want to. Thank you all in advance for the advice. I want to not fail at this. I've tried in the past, but been ghosted, and gave up. So I'm trepidly dipping my toe back into sapphic waters and hoping I won't get burned.

Edit: I am on okcupid now, and chatting up my first match!