So my NP and I have been together for going on 17 years high school sweethearts and all. We have always been open and poly since college. However about 6 years ago she had some medical conditions arise that have destroyed her libido. Since that time we have date together and separately we had a long term gf that lived with us for over a year and at the time we’re a closed triad. We unfortunately had a really toxic breakup with her sadly. Due to that breakup I have found my self drifting from person to person simply hooking up and not even enjoying it as it’s become more of a chore than a fun adventure. All of this has effect my mental state I am and have always been a very happy and sexual person but since I haven’t been able to have a strong emotional connection the sexual side has been fading.

I recently met on tinder surprisingly enough this amazing woman! She is real and sincere and just ready to be a partner not just to me but both of us. We already had our first date, we spent hours talking and without any pressure or pretense we ended up in bed however it was one of the most amazing sexual experiences I have had in a long time. We already have a second date for all 3 of us on Monday. Right all this sounds great 👍 but now I get to the reason I might be an asshole.

I seem to find my connection to this woman has increased my libido and correct a few issues I have had over the last few years. I talked to my NP about it and she got slightly upset. No my Np and I maybe have any kind of sexually activity about 4 times a year so she knows I have always wanted to much more before her medical issues we were an every day couple.

So I guess my question is after a lot of rambling am I the asshole for being excited to have such an amazing connection with a new partner even though it does not in any way diminish my existing relationship?