I'd love to hear what being solo poly means to you.

For me, since I was a little child I never fantasized about getting married (and personally I also knew I didn't want children from about age 4). Once I started dating, I started having only open or poly relationships very early on, and haven't had a mono relationship since I was 16. The idea of it is quite foreign and unpleasant to think about.

Even before I knew about solo poly, I tended to try to keep my relationships in the "non-official" zone, or to move them back into that zone once they became too established. Unfortunately, I didn't recognize what I was doing or that it could be handled better, and I hurt or confused some partners. An ideal relationship for me is one where I can fluidly move between being friends or lovers.

I don't ever wish to live with or share finances with a romantic partner again. I value my relationships with my friends highly and don't see them as fundamentally different or less than a romantic or sexual relationship. My ideal relationship is one where a partner could visit me for several weeks perhaps every six months or so.

I don't have a lot of energy for dating and find it hard to remain emotionally involved right now. I enjoy the freedom and fun of being a secondary to someone else. I'm not sure what I will want in the future, but this is my version of solo poly right now.