So I'll ask my question 1st then provide some back story. How do you date someone in a triad situation? Me and my husband both have interest in the same person. I'd like to persue a relationship with her but I don't want to hinder their relationship together either.

I want to preface this by saying I am adimatntly against unicorn hunting and have more or less been against triads as I think they are unrealistic in most cases.

My husband started talking to a couple probably about 6wks ago. They were looking for friends with the possibility of sex if there was a connection. We all met up hung out a few times and really clicked especially with the female of the couple who I'll call K. The couple ended up separating (issues unrelated to poly/non-monogamy). We've still been spending time with K and both me and my husband like her a lot. The friendship between us has been so natural and organic it's been amazing. Well my husband and K were talking one day and K told him and later me that she sees a future with both of us though she doesn't know how that might look.

My husband is really excited and feels we've found our third. I'm extremely cautious about the whole situation. 1. It's a very new relationship even on a platonic level let alone romantic. 2. None of us really have experience with poly though we all have been in non-monogamous dynamics before. I'm just not sure how to pursue a relationship with her as I don't want to get in the way of them developing a relationship together.