So me and my wife very recently decided to open up our relationship. We tried to last year but it wasnt a good time do to extenuating circumstances, although I did go one 1 date and she got stood up once, so not very successful.

Anyways, recently I started talking to this younger woman who expressed an interest in having a fwb type relationship. I politely declined because me and my wife were still discussing about opening up but we were still just talking. Me and her continued to chat and like each others company.

My wife said that we need to take this very slowly and make sure everyone is comfortable with everything. I agreed and that was that.

A few days ago, my younger friend asked if we could do coffee sometime soon, and I said sure. Today I was heading in her direction so I asked my wife if she was cool with me going for coffee with her? She said yes. Ok fine. Keep in mind that i never chnaged the type of relationship I had with my friend, and my wife knew that.

I go into town and do my running around, I talk to my wife and I could tell something was off. So against my wifes protests, I cancelled coffee and came home instead. On the way home I called her to ask what was up?

I guess she wasnt okay with me going and felt like I was moving to fast. I told her that it was just coffee, nothing more. She made a bunch of excuses, putting the blaim on me and twisting this encounter. Finally I said to her, when I ask if it's okay with you that I do something and you say ok, and it's not ok and you lie to me and then get upset, I am not the asshole here.

I've been made ever since. I feel like she lied to me, wasnt honest about herself, twisted the situation and caused a fight between us. Am I wrong here?