I have a wonderful, caring, loving primary partner. We are long distance and have spent most of our time apart. After almost 2 years we decided to open up, and we've had fun so far meeting new, interesting people.

I was starting to really like one of my dates. I felt like we got along really well and it looked like we were going to go on our fourth date. However, he recently told me he wasn't really feeling it and wished not to see me anymore, which of course I understand – but I'm feeling kind of bummed out about it.

I want to allow myself to feel and just go through it. But I also feel confused and ashamed about the fact that I can't seem to just appreciate what I have already – awesome, caring, supportive friends and a loving, incredibly understanding partner. Seems like I'm overly preoccupied by these feeling of rejection from a person, though it felt like I cared about him a lot, I didn't actually know that well.

I'm just feeling a lot of uselessness and worthlessness and on top of that, shame and guilt. How do I feel better?