Thanks all for any insight or comments, right off the bat.

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Quick background on me. Married for almost 10 years. Been poly for 3 years. I did not date at all as a teen or young man, not by choice. I was never the choice for girls. I was always the best friend. My wife was my second ever girlfriend. So poly, a lot of new feelings and emotions are coming up that I never experienced at 16... but now at 32. I've had a couple of girlfriends and some dates. I have one current partner that I've had for a month and a half. And the potential of someone else. I am a bigger dude, and for many people, that is a dealbreaker. Some physical stuff can be hard for me to do, and sex is affected to a point.

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That said...

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I met a girl, let's call her B. We met on OKC, and chatted. Started talking on FB Messenger, and she indicated wanting to get coffee and meet up sooner than later. I am not used to someone else moving quickly to meet. So I was taken back. We had some discussions all over the place, including sex. She is a very sexual person, which my wife is as well. No biggie to me. She has a boyfriend and a couple of kids. Lives like 30 minutes away. She linked me to her Fet page which included some NSFW pictures. And then she asked for a picture of me, but I am not one really to do that. She wanted to meet regardless. We ended up meeting and having a great convo. I was afraid to make a move at first, but she asked to head back to her place to talk more as the coffee shop was a bit cramped.

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We head back to her place and chill on her couch. Her boyfriend was asleep. so we were alone. We talked more. I asked if I could kiss her, and she agreed. We had what I felt was a great kiss. I went into the date with no expectations, but the kiss and being invited back to her place were signs that it was going well. She then tried figuring out our schedules to when we could hang next. I was floating on Cloud Nine. She is super cute. We can talk for hours.

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She had to get pick up her kids, so we left. Hugged and a quick kiss. we message later and she informs me that she is not interested in more than friends. She felt no chemistry. I was crushed. I went into this with no expectations, and I read it all wrong. I am not mad she felt what she felt. I Just feel... weird. We are still friends. And talk. And she opens up to me about her partners, and we discuss some intimate stuff as she looks towards me for details. I've also learned that she and I would not be as compatible in the long run due to going about things differently... but every time we talk I feel this weird feeling in the pit of my stomach. I am not sure if I really had this huge thing for her. Or if not knowing just why she felt no chemistry. I've asked her, and she said sometimes you just don't feel it.

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I don't want to cut her out of my life per se. But I am also hurting when we talk as well. I don't know what to do. Other than allow time to pass.

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