How to handle primary partner that needs a cooling off period when I hook up with other people?

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My primary partner (who also sees other people), feels uncomfortable being affectionate after I hook up or have sex with my secondary partners.

She prefers not to kiss or hug for anywhere to 24 to 48 hours after I meet said partners.

My partner is not very affectionate overall, so I am wondering if this is a excuse but most likely that's not the case.

It is clear she is just uncomfortable. In your opinion, what is the best way to handle this so she feels more comfortable? Affection is very important for me and is already a big source of our arguments.

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